This morning a good friend texted me, “morning, sister….”
And then went on to respond about something.
After, I thought about her statement, and it’s true. This girl, with less than two years of
knowing her, is more my sister in deep friendship than so many other people
that have known me for many more years.
Then I wondered how I could feel so close with someone when
we haven’t had the luxury of time to know one another? What is different about my ability to have
closer relationships now than I did ten years ago? The difference is I’m a different
person. I’m more my true self and have learned
to own who I am. I am more open and
sincere about my feelings and thoughts, good or bad. Before, I was cautious and afraid to let
people see who I was, and afraid they would see what I was hiding. Once I could admit to myself how deeply my
past had shaped who I was, I was able to begin to be me. Now, I’m my most authentic self, 100% of the
time. That is always my goal.
This growth was really more of a transformation of my
confidence. I am confident in who I
am. I’m proud of my life. Because I am not afraid to be who I really
am, I am able to make deeper connections with people. I simply don’t want to waste time on less
meaningful relationships.
My experiences made me a better person. I’m a better friend, daughter, sister and
ultimately, it made me the person who could be ready to be a good wife to
N.
P.S: I also know that my bestest friends who have known me
for 20 years would be insulted to think that anyone would challenge the awesome
friendship we have. There is nothing
that would exchange knowing someone for twenty years (or more). You can’t buy time. Or trade it.
