I posted this list the other day.... and this number reminded me of N:
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
He got a nice coat for Christmas and didn't want to wear it. It was too nice. He does this often. He'll have something that is valuable (a watch, a coat, shoes, anything) and he doesn't want to mess it up.
I get it. In the past (and sometimes still) I have a preoccupation with messing up or losing something that is precious. And then I get anxious. But that is nonsense. Possessions are meant to be used, not treated like an art exhibit.
When we have children, I'm going to pull out the china on a random Tuesday night, make burgers and we'll all eat on them. Just because.
YES xox
ReplyDeleteAnother of my favorites from the list of lessons you posted. It rings especially true once you know firsthand how short life can be. I am SO grateful we used the family china, that we would sometimes drink an expensive bottle of wine, etc. It brings great comfort that Brian and I had that mindset, and I can't imagine how bitter I'd be if we had been saving things for a day that never came. Remind N of that...not to be morbid, but just being realistic. Besides, you guys should make every day special, even if you get all you dreamed of and more days in your lives! xoxo
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