I had a conversation with a girl friend about ex boyfriends. Actually, I had two conversations today with two friends about exes. Interesting how the thought of them creeps up from no where. So tonight I was asked if I would want the one particular guy whom I dated a decade ago, to be happy.
Nope.
My friend told me (correctly) that I am an a-hole. She couldn't believe it because of how much I speak about forgiveness on here.
But here's my caveat- he never asked for forgiveness. Never. He never regretted how mean he was to me. How he hurt me and mistreated me. So I still harbor resentment and anger. Is it foolish and immature? Sure. But there are a few things I haven't completely let go of. I'm a work in process- i'll get there one day.
I forgave this guy- why? Because he apologized via text and email several times. He was clearly an idiot and admitted it.
I forgive my friends and family for offenses minor and major, because I love them. And they love me. I assume I'm not alone here, but would like to hear that I'm not.
