When she speaks about the future, I couldn't help but think she hit home. She mentioned that we expect perfection from our children. I see it every day, every where. To paraphrase her, she says kids "are hard wired for struggle. When you hold those perfect babies in you hand, we have to keep in mind, our job isn't to make them perfect. We need to tell them you are imperfect and wired for struggle, but worthy of love and belonging"
Some Advice and Observations from Brene Brown and the struggle with vulnerability:
- We numb vulnerability (then we numb joy, gratitude and happiness, which re-starts the cycle)
- We make the uncertain- certain. Religion, for example, has gone from a belief in faith and mystery to certainty (I'm right, you're wrong- SHUT UP). Same is true for politics. All that is left, is blame.
- We perfect ourselves (and expect it in others)
- We pretend that what we do doesn't have an affect on other people-we need to say we are sorry and we'll fix it
- We need to let ourselves be seen as vulnerable, to love with our whole hearts even if there is no guarantee
- Practice gratitude and joy when you are feeling terror
- Believe you are enough - because then we stop screaming and start listening
