Shy people fear. I believe they fear other people's judgement. I know because I grew up shy and uncomfortable in my own skin. As I grew up, I masked the fear I had. I did so sufficiently enough that I was routinely told people found me to be "intimidating," and still do. How could I be shy as well as intimidating at the same time? Maybe I'm a good thespian. (note: sarcasm)
Or maybe, people only saw what they wanted to see. I maintain my fears kept me at bay from people, so they thought I believed I was "too cool for school." Anyone who knows me knows this is not the case. KG will never be the cool kid who goes anywhere and assumes she's better than everyone else. In fact, I'm proudly weird and nerdy in my own way.
Overtime, I've changed. I try to push the shyness and the fears aside. I've grown. I've matured. If you've known me personally for a while, I hope you see that.
It's fair to keep in mind that we should be somewhat cautious in life. But then again, life is a journey. If you don't take a few risks and push out of your comfort zone, you'll never know what else is out there for you to experience.
Omg, this is me all over. I'm really very shy and people also think I'm snobby because I don't smile very often and I'm alone most of the times listening to music. And I think somehow they think I'm over confident and think too much about myself. I also feel weird and I know I have a different style, but they shouldn't hate me for that. If they knew the real me they would know how insecure and scared I am of being judged by them. They would know I'm actually friendly and nice. Maybe I actually use this image of myself to feel stronger too, but if I do that, It's unintentionally. It's very hard being shy, but it's also fun doing spontaneous things from now and than to try and overcome all the shyness we have within us :)
ReplyDeleteJust focus on being yourself- no fear! Then all the details will work themselves out.... you won't be seen as friendly, or shy, or snobby...just YOU!
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